Death And Grieving


Recovery From Death and Grieving

A loss of a loved one can be a devastating experience for a human being. It can both either debilitate or deeply inspire the ones left in the wake of loss. Many clinical cases of depression swiftly follow in the footsteps of friends and family members who are in the sad scenario of Death and Grieving.

The bereaved are romanticized in today’s world to be given license to act out, traditionally in black dresses and heavy dark glasses, many with alcohol or other forms of release from inhibition. Many cases have shown this coping mechanism for the sad loss of their loved one throughout history. Unfortunately, some people turn their sadness into anger. Therefore, in the aftermath of their loved one’s death, they have already committed crimes, held revolutions, sunk a family fortune, and separated or divorced themselves from a relationship. On the other hand, there are also people who have set up a foundation for the afflicted after undergoing the loss of a loved one.

In situations of death and grieving where the death is unexpected, the bereaved party usually goes through stages in processing the experience, as according to Kubler Ross. These five stages are commonly referred to as DABDA: (1) Denial and Isolation; where shock has taken place and the bereaved refuse to believe the loss. (2) Anger; where the bereaved look for a person, place or event to blame for the loss. (3) Bargaining; where the bereaved hopes to return the dead to life in exchange for some act or object of offering. (4) Depression; where a deep sadness envelopes the one left behind, usually turning into a clinical disorder if left unrecognized but can be tempered by company in its infancy. (5) Acceptance; where the reality of the situation has been found to be unchangeable and life must go on. These reactions are common and everyone can expect to experience them after a death. This is part of every human being’s coping mechanism to Death and Grieving.

There is no age limit to the depression that Death and Grieving (as a psychological situation) inflicts. Even children are not immune to these stages of grieving brought about by death, although they may interpret the loss in different ways as according to their age. Young children may not understand death and can result in behavioral changes like a propensity for emotional outbursts followed by seemingly normal activity. Another serious effect of death among children would be the inability to experience strong emotions for long. Children may try to act normal but sometimes display abnormal behaviors and conditions such as: having sleep disturbances, acting out, experiencing sleep problems like nightmares, waking up in the middle of the night and bed wetting. These regressive behaviors are signs of unexpressed grief.

There is no time limit to depression and people who go through Death and Grieving are left unsure of when life will return to “normal” again. The timetable of grief follows no strict rules as every loss is different and personal. The only constant thing in grief is that the feeling of loss lessens as time passes by, as life is filled with new experiences.

Death and Grieving are inevitable and necessary parts of life. Only when one fully experiences and releases themselves from the stages of grief understanding it will accomplish nothing and life must go on will they become healthy again.